No Shame

How to Cancel Plans without Seeming Like a Flake

Friends are great and all — but there are times (most times) when you’d rather be left to your own devices. A solo lounging session can be a cure-all for a hectic day, a headache or just pure laziness. But, when the urge to stay indoors comes at an inconvenient time — like when you’re expected to be the life of the party, for instance — you’ll have to cancel to do what you’d really rather be doing anyways ( i.e. absolutely nothing).

These tips will come in handy on those occasions when you need to bail on your friends:


Cancel ASAP

As soon as you realize you’re not going to be able to make it to a scheduled hangout, go ahead and let the other person know. Things come up, couches are comfy — and there’s no shame in that. Whoever it is you’re standing up will definitely understand where you’re coming from, but it’s courteous to let them know ASAP so they can rearrange their schedule accordingly.


Be Truthful

There’s no reason to hide why it is you’re not going to be able to make it to a meeting or social outing. You’re justified to take some time for you and do what’s best for your schedule and overall well-being. So, don’t feel the need to make excuses. Honesty is always the best policy.


Offer To Reschedule

There’s likely a good reason you had a meet-up scheduled, so be sure you make it happen in the future! So, be sure you offer another potential time to get together to really get in that quality Facetime you needed.


Decline From The Start

If you know yourself well enough to know you’re most likely going to want to relax at home without a bra — start saying no more often. If you don’t accept invitations you know you don’t want — you’ll find yourself cancelling plans way less often. We all know how exhausting avoiding the social scene can be — so try making no plans instead. 😉 Staying in is the new going out, and we highly recommend you try it out!

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